7 point outline for developing rapport
Break the ice: talk about or find common ground if you can, but keep it light
Show interest in them: ask them 'how are you getting on?’ or ‘what are you working on at the moment?'
Express gratitude: this is especially nice if they’ve personally done something for you…
Outline positive expectations: 'looking forward to…’ is a good way to get everyone on the same page about a positive future experience
Empathise with their situation: 'it must be tough trying to…'
Relate: 'it’s similar for me - I’m also trying to...'
Show more interest: 'how are your friends/family getting on?'
We all have beliefs about life, the world, relationships and of course, work. They can be empowering or disempowering, conscious or subconscious. Removing limiting beliefs is a key step in achieving goals. But if we don’t move recognise and accept where we’re getting stuck, it can be difficult to make progress. For example, if you believed that there weren’t any interesting jobs available right now because of market conditions, why would you even bother looking? And then if you don’t look for them, of course, you won’t find them. The belief stops the action and the inaction leads to a negative result. This in turn becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you’re unsure of what your beliefs about work are, here are some questions to get yourself started. Of course, you must answer them honestly or else you won’t learn anything about yourself.
This is probably my favourite concept on love and that’s primarily because it’s so simple and yet effective. At any time over the course of a relationship, individuals in the couple behave on different levels of this chart and they may or may not have very good reasons for doing so. It can be really difficult to behave at level 3 if your partner is always at level 1 or 2, but let’s remember that level 3 is the optimum level and where we all ultimately want to be.
It’s important to note what are good habits to have in a relationship but it’s also essential that we know what are the key behaviours to avoid. Again, this week’s post follows on with the work of Dr. John Gottman and Nan Silver. Check out their books if you get a chance. They are well worth it - I’m a big fan, as you can probably tell!
I thought I should write a piece on relationships for Valentines day so here it is! There are lots of talks on love and relationships on TED but these are my favourite ones. Some are scientific, some are more philosophical and some are plain practical. Hope you enjoy them if you get a chance to check them out!
It seems like this one specifically relates to men. It turns out that we’re not perfect - who knew?! Time to pull up the socks. Check out these 3 quotes that make a pretty clear point.
“Studies have shown that marriages where the husband resists sharing power are four times more likely to end or drone on unhappily than marriages where the husband does not resist."
The quality of the couple’s friendship is, by 70%, the determining factor in whether men and women feel satisfied with the sex, romance, and passion in their marriage.
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a person or thing regarded as an excellent example of a specified quality: as she grew older, she became a model of self-control.
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